Dear Cy, My wife and I have been married for about two years. i am allergic to cat hair and she has a cat who sheds a great deal. i have talked until I'm blue in the face, trying to convince her of the physical discomfort I feel as a result of the exposure to the cat. I know she loves me, but she loves the cat too, and while I realize that one of us has to go, I feel like a jerk making her choose between us. i just don't know what to do at this point. Help! Signed, Catastrophe Dear Catastrophe, Obviously, you're frustrated with this situation. You can't live with the cat, and at the same time you're worried that if the cat goes, your wife will resent you for having caused her loss. Even though it's your allergies creating the choice between you or the cat, you're correct in assuming the loss of the cat could potentially cause subconscious resentful feelings within your spouse. In today's worlds, chances of your marriage succeeding with a cat lover are slim enough without this added challenge. Open lines of communication are the best way of avoiding a potential catastrophe in your relationship.